Fertility Counselling in Warwickshire

Counselling and Implications Counselling

 Finding out you have fertility issues and dealing with the roller coaster that is assisted conception can be a really difficult time for couples and individuals, especially if a cycle fails or your pregnancy ends in the heartbreak of miscarriage.

I am BACP Senior Accredited counsellor and a member of BICA the infertility counselling association. I will work with you to help you consider your next steps, supporting you emotionally to help you get into the right mind-set to be able to contemplate your next steps.

Getting pregnant is not just about having sex at the ‘right’ time or going through the motions of IVF; the mind can have a very powerful influence on the whole process of conception.

Negative thoughts, emotions and behaviours can lead to increased anxiety and depression and sabotage your goals to conceive.

Emotional and psychological blocks can get in the way of conception. Your relationship with your partner really holds the key. If you are feeling anger and resentment towards your partner, not enjoying sex and not really ‘connecting’ with your partner, but simply existing alongside in a vacuum, this passion-starved existence is hardly conducive to making a baby together.

Negative messages from figures of authority can feed every cell in your body. If as a young woman, a doctor tells you: ‘you are likely to have problems conceiving when you get older,’ this can have a devastating effect, subconsciously crushing your hopes for motherhood; or if a man has had a very authoritarian father, it may affect his sexuality and his belief about his ability to father a child. Negative feelings can lead to anxiety about sex and the belief that it’s not really worth having sex. Similarly, any traumatic events from the past, such as an abortion (often from years back) or repeated failed attempts at IVF or recurrent miscarriage can create feelings of negativity and despair.

Can you identify with any of these statements?

I need help to stay positive.

I feel out of control.

I am getting over-anxious.

I have never failed at anything until now.

I need help to manage my stress.

I know I am a perfectionist by nature.

Maybe I don’t deserve to have a child.

I don’t want to have any regrets.

We need help to make the right decision.

The clock is ticking.

Jacqueline Hurst works closely with many of the top IVF clinics at and abroad, aiming to combine the best of care with psychological and emotional support at every step. The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA) provides a comprehensive list of clinics and success rates, but choosing the most appropriate clinic for your individual needs is not always easy. There may be advantages to staying with your current clinic, but sometimes a change of clinic may be more appropriate. 

We are here to help and support you in your decision making process.

Implications Counselling – for clients who go down the donated gametes route (e.g. donor sperm, eggs or embryos) implications counselling is required before you start treatment at your chosen clinic, Jacqueline has worked with many couples and individuals on this journey.

Letting go of one set of circumstances and a life long dream to come to terms with and then embrace a whole new situation, it goes without saying that all this can be daunting and extremely difficult – we are here to help.

Some couples or individuals may have made a difficult decision to end their fertility journey and come to the point where they want to consider being childless. We are here to help whatever the situation may be.

We are here to help www.jachurst.co.uk